My Better Half On Optimism

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So today is my 35th birthday and as I’ve mentioned earlier I’m having a little bit of trouble with it.  A lot of that trouble has to do with my generally pessimistic attitude (what I like to think of as “realistic”.) Andrew, on the other hand, is like a bouncing ball of positivity, and to be honest, has had more tricky, tough stuff happen to him than me. Yet he remains able to never let life get him  while I tend to take on a more “Eeyore” cast. It’s amazing, and one of the things I love (and relay on) most about him. So I asked him to write a little about how he stays so positive about life and here’s what he had to say:

Erin asked me to write a blog on how I maintain my seemingly unending positivity. It’s funny, because even the way she asked me that had the “and by positive I mean naïve” undertone. Ok, I get it. Maybe sometimes. I obviously can’t speak for all us positive people, but I will offer some insight into my mindset.

First off, it really is a mindset. I get in bad moods, feel sad, feel anxious, have the “what if <insert worst case scenario>” thoughts too. But at some point I just decided that I hated feeling that way. And since it doesn’t do me any good, I do whatever it takes to not feel that way. PLEASE NOTE: That does not mean I ignore those feelings. It doesn’t mean, that I don’t understand and contemplate the underlying causes. It means that I don’t let them linger. There are always at least two ways to approach anything…and I just choose to look at the bright side. It is more fun that way. Of course that is easier said than done. But no one ever said being positive was easy. I would argue it is a lot harder than being a pessimist.

Lighting Roundup

Lighting is one of the most important parts of decorating- both for the way your space is illuminated (functionally and mood-wise) and because fixtures can make such a big statement in a space.  There are cool new items coming out all the time so I thought I;d round up some of my favorite new fixtures found at some of my go-to online shopping sites for such things: Circa Lighting, Shades of Light, West Elm, Laura U, Rejuvenation and even Etsy!

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A Visit to the Matouk Factory

Last week I made a pilgrimage down to the Matouk factory in Fall River, MA. Until a couple of years ago I didn’t know that this luxury bedding company was actually based out of Massachusetts!  I have clients who have always sworn by the factory store down there for bedding and towels at a discount but had never been myself.  So I decided to change that and went down for a little tour of the store, the factory and see the plans for their expansion!

The factory store is small (for now) but CHOCK FULL of awesome finds.

Lulu DK for Matouk bedding…
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Birthday Wishlist

So, I turn 35 next week and for the first time in my life I’m feeling a little ho-hum about my birthday. Usually I have a birthday MONTH and relish all things birthday, but his year, I’m kinda not into it.  35 sounds so much older than I actually feel and it’s been such a tough year personally, so I think I’ll just try 34 again instead. Is that okay with everyone?

I also don’t have a mega-specific wishlist this year either. I am grateful for my health, my house (especially all the new bits) and the success I’ve found in the past couple years so I plan to focus on that. I’m feeling rather quiet and contemplative this birthday, and will probably spend it in that manner. A nice dinner with Andrew, extra dog snuggles and some wine. Nothing fancy.

Of course, there are some things I wouldn’t mind getting.  There’s always a permanent wish list items (Tank watch/ Love bracelet/ baby goat/ safari in Africa) but here’s a little grouping of lovelies I have my eye on too. And clearly there is an orange and navy thing happening in my brain right now.

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1. As much as I love my iPhone, I perform better with a real planner.  So I think I need to go old school and get a new one. this monogrammable leather one from Graphic Image suits me just fine.

2. This bag is part of my permanent wish list. DUH.

3. I have a tassel addiction. Obsessed with this new J.Crew necklace.

4. I need new sneakers so I can get back to running a little more often. These have CHEETAH and you can customize the colors- plus great reviews!

5. DIE DIE DIE for this shearling vest. DIE.

6. I know you probably want to slap me over the number of times I’ve posted these plates but I still have not bought them for myself.

7. MORE TASSELS!

8. I have this brand’s White Rhino candle and it smells awesome and it’s HUGE- I’d love to give this one a go for my new bedroom!

9. & 10. More J.Crew- this navy blouse and cuffed hem jeans would be a fall staple.

HOW COULD I FORGET TO NUMBER THE LEOPARD FLATS???

11. I love, love, love these lamps for my new bedroom but they are a bit too pricey for me right now.

12. Some really nice stationery from Crane for all the thanks you notes I suspect I’ll be writing this fall.

13. A beautiful rolling bag to pack in for my book tour this fall! Dates and cities coming soon!

14. A kayak. The one thing I really do want. Actually, two of them (or one tandem one but Andrew and I argue/ get competetive when we paddle together and then I try to smack him with my paddle…)  We have a little lake right by our house and I think this would be fun exercise!

15. Still obsessed with the white version of this little Adler vase. Need one!

16. We’ve been working with Mallory Page a lot lately and I love her work.  Original art is becoming more of a desire as I get OLD AS DIRT.