Crazy.

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Hi Guys-

I’ve been crazy the last 24 hours- got stuck in a traffic jam last night for almost 5 hours and am running out the door to get to my train to NYC this morning.  I’m gonna have to skip blogging today (which KILLS me) but sometimes you just don’t have enough bandwith (and the Amtrak Wifi certainly doesn’t either). I promise a great Fashion Friday tomorrow. If there is anything specific you are looking for, let me know in comments!

Thanks for understanding,

Erin

A Collected & Layered Home

*Sorry this is so late guys- slept in because of a nasty cold…. and the Patriots win :)

I have been drawn to the beauty of layered and collected spaces more and more lately.  Those with a big focus on antiques mixed with modern staples and clean white backgrounds.  The Domaine spread on designer and antiques dealer Brenda Antin’s home in Los Angeles (for sale- see listing here) left me sighing.  How peaceful, bright and interesting is this home? And bonus, it once belonged to George Peppard of Breakfast of Tiffany’s fame (“Fred Darling”…)

Let’s take a little tour:

Other than the linen slipcovered sof and chairs, everything here seems like it has an interesting provenance and story.

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2014

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2014 was quite a year. Quite a year, indeed.

Not many people in this life get the chance to hold a beautiful bound copy of a book they’ve written in their hands, never-mind seeing it succeed and their names on the New York Times Bestseller list.  I still can’t believe I was one of those people. Still, months later, a quick peek of that striped spine on a bookstore shelf still leaves me speechless. Not to mention the thrill of my cross-country book tour, not only because I was on my own book tour (say whaaaaaat?) but because I got to finally meet many of you in person and share that magical experience with Andrew.  After nearly eight years of talking to you through this blog, to get to hug you and look you in the eyes was so gratifying to me. Overwhelming and mind-blowing too, of course.  It still amazes me that people I don’t know in real life read what I have to say.

We also go to see the dream of adding an addition onto our house turn into reality.  And what a spectacular reality it is.  Not often do things surpass my expectations (the curse of being a ridiculous perfectionist) but this DID. In every way. We had an amazing team working on the house and I felt confident in the design and decisions we made.  And now, every time I walk into my master bedroom and bathroom or realize I don’t have to go into our dark basement to do a load of whites, I feel gratitude head to toe.  It’s so wonderful to see this little, smoky, old house turn into everything I want it to be (of course, my brain has moved onto Phase 3- and oohhhhh, it’s gonna be GOOD- when we can afford to do it, of course!)

But this year wasn’t all triumphs, no one’s year ever is.  My struggle to get pregnant resulted in an early miscarriage and a failed first IVF attempt, both of which caused us a lot of pain and put an extra dose of fear into my heart.  But what’s good about going through all this is that I finally feel ready.  I am in the space where I really, really want nothing more than to be a mom- where as two years ago I was nowhere near that.  I was still conflicted, unsure of what I really wanted and certainly not ready to be someone’s mother.  I have to trust my own timeline and not constantly compare it to everyone else.

The other thing this battle has taught me, and this has been a very recent development, is that you cannot control everything.  I’ve spent my entire life, thank to fabulous parents, with the understanding that if I work hard enough I can accomplish anything. And I have. And being a control freak has served me very well in my career, and I have to embrace that. But this is one thing I have absolutely no control over.  And after the tears dried, a sort of peace settled into my heart- an acceptance I have long tried to find within me- that this is not my fault and I can’t spend all my days devastated because I am not pregnant yet.  It’s a waste of a really blessed life.  There is something so freeing in the ability to finally believe that and  I’ve actually been so much happier since then.  We are heading into round two of IVF with a new doctor (Dr. Ashby, for all those that commented and suggested her), new hospital and a new found sense of well-being.  And while I’m still scared it won’t work, there is hope.

While we were going through our first cycle full of shots and stress, Andrew got laid off.  The timing could not have been worse for lots of reasons, and it was a really hard moment for our relationship.  There were certainly some “why me?” moments when adding up the infertility and the job loss all at once.  But Andrew is the most resilient man on the planet, and not only saw the loss of his job as a GOOD thing (he wasn’t very happy where he was) but as an opportunity to make his own dream career come true.  And seeing him so happy right now, jumping up to get to work every morning, makes me so happy.  He’s been so supportive to me while I worked endlessly on my career, and I want this year to be “The Year of Andrew Gates”, with me in the supporting role, not the star.

But the best thing about 2014?  Andrew and I have never been in a better place in our marriage. Ever. I am so lucky to have him as my husband (as those of you who got to meet him on tour reminded me) and I think he feels lucky to have me too.  And that right there is such a gift.  I feel like we’re on such solid ground right now, like everything has sort of shifted into place, and no matter what happens in 2015- good or bad- we’ll get through it, celebrate it, love it, hate it and endure it together.

And to all of you- those who have read this blog, bought the book, shared your joy and pain with me this year, showed up to signings and even those who doubted me- THANK YOU.  It’s you who still make me so excited to open this computer every morning and blog.  It’s you who made my dreams come true this year. I don’t know where I’d be without your support- probably still in a grey cubicle working on insurance spreadsheets and dreaming of the life I have now. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

And to 2014- thanks for being the best year yet. Until 2015. :)