Some reflections from us both…
Today is our ten year anniversary. TEN. YEARS. It’s hard to believe that time has gone that fast. It feels like yesterday that we were on that awkward first Match.com date (over 13 years ago!!!) and yet I can barely remember a time when Andrew was not in my life. At this point everything that happened before him feels like something I saw in a movie or read in a book- not something that actually happened to me. I think that’s just what happens when you marry your best friend and everything just seems… right.
And by right, in no way do I mean perfect. Oh no, lets not kid ourselves. Marriage is some of the hardest work out there (next to raising children, I assume- I guess I’m about to find out about that one.) Just like any couple, we’ve had our painful trials to go through and big, scary questions to face. There were times in the last ten years when I wasn’t sure we would make it here- truly- but the one thing that kept me fighting was the idea of Andrew as a father. No matter how big a fight or how much I wanted to light him on fire some days, I just could not shake the thought of what a magical, wonderful father he would be to a child.
And imagining him as a father would conjure up mental lists all his great qualities- trustworthy, funny, loving, selfless, driven, committed. And it would remind me of just why we got married and why I love him so much. And finally, we’re here. About to become parents in 8 short weeks (please come near your due date Baby Gates!) And as you know, getting here was no easy feat either, and one that I can’t imagine having gone through without Andrew’s amazing love, support and willingness to stab me with needles (sometimes with glee) spend quality time with himself in tiny rooms with plastic cups (hey, if you can’t laugh about it, you’ll cry- A LOT). The infertility battle was one that, while painful, brought us that much closer together. And while I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, I wouldn’t change my path either because I think it made us an even stronger couple. Ten years is a long time to be married before having your first child, but I am so very confident it was the right choice for us. We are the happiest we’ve ever been and that is so important to get right before the craziness of adding a baby to your clan.