I’m going to use my blog today as a cyber soap box to vent some of my personal frustration. I don’t usually give any validation to haters, and I have plenty of them who leave nasty comments on this blog which you never see because I don’t post them. But this I want to address because it really made me lose a bit of faith in the human race as a whole and that makes me really sad. Yesterday’s Boston Globe 25 Most Stylish publication was a pretty decent thrill for me (and the others involved, I’m sure). I know I for one have worked really hard at creating an entrepreneurial business from the ground up and when asked by a publication such as the Globe to participate in such a story I can only be proud to get recognition for that hard work (not to mention more business, as free local press is the best kind of advertising). So when I logged onto the website to see what people thought of the spread and found 5 pages of hatred, I was appalled. Comments like “I’m sure every one of these people are stuck up snobs. I would be embarrassed and ashamed to even be brought up as a possible candidate for this list, but I’m sure these losers think it’s an honor” or “these people are privileged, self-absorbed, nothings” and “Why is the Globe giving all this attention to these self-obsessed attention whores? They’ve done nothing for society other than parade around in expensive clothes.” What’s ironic is that the people making these comments are the true self-absorbed losers that they claim we are. I’d like them to pair their photos and job titles with their comments since they are such pillars of fashion and society. I’m going to venture a bet that they wouldn’t say such things if that was required- the veil of anonymity makes us oh-so brave and free to judge, now doesn’t it?
Not every piece in a newspaper has to be hard hitting journalism and if you don’t enjoy fashion then don’t read it and move on to something that does interest you. There is no need to try to take other people down just because you think what we do is “silly”. Why don’t you take the time it took to write your vile posts to do something worthy, since you feel so morally superior to us and assume we don’t do anything but gaze in the mirror. This article wasn’t about our whole lives, just our exteriors. If you really want to judge, wait until you hear about our backgrounds, volunteer work, charity involvement, education, hobbies and beliefs. You don’t know anything about us except for this one tidbit. And pardon me if I’m wrong, but doesn’t it make YOU the stuck up snob for judging us based on our clothing? I mean, really, just LISTEN to yourselves. You sound uneducated, petty and incredibly shallow and I’m really sad that I share this great city with you. I really am.
I’m done for now, I just had to get that off my chest. Thanks for listening and to the haters, you can keep hatin’ because I’m gonna keep doing what I do and doing it with pride.
xo,
Erin
You tell ‘em! I have been a loyal reader of your blog since I saw your profile in the Globe. I used to live in Boston until we moved to Europe several years ago and I love reading about what you are doing in town (ok, I love the fashion and the Twilight mentions too!) I am shocked by the nastiness of the comments but a lot of that has to do with the anonymous nature of the internet. None of those people would ever dare say any of those things in person. Your blog is a delight to read and inspiring in so many ways. You deserve lots of happiness for everything you have achieved so don’t you let those crabby patties get you down for one second!
You are fabulous! Keep up the awesome work!
I think its great that you posted something about the haters. I think you’re blog is great and I was very excited to see you picked for the article. Keep up the positive energy. You rock!
Sometimes bloggers have to set the record straight, Habitually Chic had to do it when someone stole her copy and Door Sixteen had to push back some haters that she encountered after the AT’s “Homies” competition, I’m sure its happened in other instances. Apartment Therapy’s comments can be negative at times and people get really judgemental about issues concerning babies on the Ohdeedoh blog. It’s unfortunate and ridiculous that people behave in this way, jealousy manifests in many different ways. You’ve done a fine job, self-employment in this economy and really in any economy is a risk.
I, too, was excited to see you in the paper. I’m glad you spoke up! I think people need to remember, “If you can’t say anything nice…”
Oh my those comments were nasty…you all need to come down here where the people are as warm and welcoming as the weather. Funny thing is my DH is from NH and I got stuck there after a nasty divorce and couldn’t wait to get out of the cold, frigid “climate”. We’ve been in North Carolina over 15 years and will never go back…keep your chin up Erin…remember they will find someone else to bash tomorrow…when dealing with these types of ignorant people just put on a smile, “get happy, get in and get out”…is my motto. Have a great weekend and stay warm. Fondly, Roberta
That is crazy!! There is no space in the world for that type of negativity. Obviously, you have a ton of people addicted to your blog and that think you are fabulous, so don’t even think about those comments. Have a glass of wine and enjoy the weekend!
That makes me really sad that someone would post anything like that. They must be really unhappy and in need of some spiritual guidance if they thought that was ok to do. Keep your chin up and don’t feel like you need to justify anything you do to anyone but yourself and God. In fact the next time you see one of those emails just delete – don’t even continue reading it through and above all don’t give them the satisfaction of emailing them back.
I read over some of the comments that were left. Erin, insecure people will do or say anything to feel better and it was apparent to me that those leaving the comments were just that. They all displayed an oddly low level of maturity as well. If fashion isn’t your bag, move on! I read your blog everyday with my cup of coffee and it brings me such joy and inspiration! And I know I’m one of so many readers that love not only your style, but your perspective and sense of wonderment. So rise above!
xoxo
Erin, you are amazing. Don’t listen to those haters. I absolutely love your style. I check out your blog all the time to see the outfits you put together and even end up using some of the pieces in my wardrobe. You have great style and grace, don’t let them get you down.
I read through some of the comments and they were very harsh. Anonymity brings out the worst in people sometimes. It’s sad really.
First of all – your blog is a daily go-to for me. I look forward to every new post, I love your finds and appreciate your bargain-driven mind. Honestly, this free-for-all attitude on online postings is becoming ridiculous, to the point where I question if comments sections should be accessible at all. We all know that there are millions of people jumping at the bit to make their voice heard, but attacking the success of others goes beyond judgmental: it’s hypocritical, obnoxious, and frankly, useless.
The responses to this article are particularly shocking to me simply because of the overwhelming ratio of negative to positive comments. It’s unbelievable – calling people with money shallow, when I’m sure readers secretly wish they had the same resources, or attacking someone who is interested in fashion and clothing because they are not, or because they don’t deem it to be a viable profession.
I admire your response, and wish that us Americans would grow up and accept that whining is not an acceptable response to something we do not agree with. A personal opinion is not applicable to the general population. Personal and professional goals are not and should not be identical to everyone else’s. Furthermore, just because there’s an article online, doesn’t mean it’s meant for everyone to read!!!
So bravo to YOU and people like you who do what they love and love what they do. May we all have the same courage, and may we all show compassion for those around us.
I don’t know what it is lately, but everytime I read a news article online from an established news source, I feel like people are so rude and judgemental in the comments section. People rip the authors to shreds, as well as the subjects. I mean how much hate do you feel inside when you write something like that? People need to just chill out and enjoy life a little more. It’s really sad. You have an amazing blog, and I love to read it daily. These people are clearly unhappy and jealous. Don’t let them bother you.
ERIN
i recommend you follow the DOOCE http://www.dooce.com and make a whole website devoted to the haters. LOL. HANG in THERE. There will always be people in this world who hate. Be the peaceful warrior you are and stay strong!
And if you need flowers for anyone in the NYC area, spread the word about Blossom and Branch. We are wishing we could send you some beautiful flowers to cheer you up.
Hugs and Namaste,
Leah at Blossom and Branch
Erin- you are so inspiring, and I read your blog almost every day. I rarely comment, but I thought this warranted a response. Don’t let that hate get to you! I think people who are cowardly use an online venue to trash people based on their own inner misery–clearly they want to vent *something*! But, hopefully you know how valued you are, and how much your readers love to see what you have to offer every day, and the hate can just wash on by like garbage floating downstream :-)
Do let them upset you b/c they are jealous of your success. You are doing an awesome job!!! Just keep doing what your doing!
E ~
I’ve been following this blog for quite some time now and it was so exciting to see a familiar face associated with that publication. Erin, you rock! Any real fan of your blog should already know you’re one of the most stylish people ever. Keep being fabulous!
I’m so sorry you had to deal with all that. You should be very proud of all your hard work and enjoy your wll-deserved recognition. Unfortunately, the human race can be disappointing. To Hell with the rude, inconsiderate, self-centered, JEALOUS, class-less people out there. Focus on those of us who truly look forward to reading your Blog every morning and appreciate your hard work. Thank you for entertaining me for FREE!
Don’t let em get you down! I think that is seriously some people’s hobby now. While we in the design and home decor style blog arena support each other and post helpful comments, there is a whole other group of people that spend their days spreading hate and nastiness via the internet. Don’t you worry – you are doing your thing and are very successful (and quite an inspiration to us newbies!).
Sending lots of love your way!
im sure i’m the 119th person to tell you this, but i love your blog and think you’re great! there will always be those people who are either jealous of you or just want to be mean to make themselves feel better. i know its easier to say than do, but u can’t listen to their crap. as long as you feel good about what you do and it keeps you waking up everyday and enjoying your life, then thats all that matters! i enjoy reading your blog everyday, i’ve never commented before but had to tell you to keep your head up!
I just want to add my piece here as well- your blog is the first I check each day because it never fails to make me smile. It inspires me to be a better dresser, better decorator, and better blogger (your sense of humor is so evident in your posts- I admire that!).
I’m glad you addressed the haters- they must have awful lives if they feel the need to anonymously tear someone down. Especially someone as FABULOUS as yourself! I don’t get the Boston Globe anymore- but when I saw that you and Martini of ‘Beyond Boston Chic’ were featured, I called up my mom, “You have to save that issue for me, my favorite bloggers are in the paper!!! YAY!!”"
Forget the haters and focus on the people who absolutely ADORE you! You make all of our worlds a little brighter- and what more can you ask for in life than that?
When my 4 daughters were young and in elementary and junior high they would occasionally come in with stories of mean things done or said to them. While inside I was boiling and wanting to tear those brats from limb to limb, my face didn’t show it. Instead I let my eyes get real big and I’d start this huge belly laugh. In between guffaws I would say things like, “Aren’t they silly? They must be afraid of you. I feel sorry for them- they must be very unhappy inside.” All the hurt and indignation would melt and an extra good hug would restore their world to right. Things said like, “I’m so grateful you are a nice girl and would never say things like that” would re-enforce their sense of kindness and compassion where they could go out and face kids again. They grew up and are so confident and strong, yet tender and caring young women. Many parents have asked me how I raised such confident girls.
The point of the story is- mean, spiteful, bored people have to vomit their filth on somebody and sometimes it’s us. You’ve done the right thing- faced them and told them what they are. Your confidence will win out. Your lack of anger will conquer. Your friends stand by you. Live strong!
I was reading some of the comments people wrote yesterday and as well, I was shocked. As a fellow (student) interior designer/self proclaimed fashionista I happen to love your sense of style, and views on living a lifestyle filled with design. If people only knew you were a bargainer! Splurge occasionally on the good stuff, and pair it with the cheap! That is something I firmly believe in, so don’t let anyone bring you down! They probably have half the success you do.
I have enough “reality” in my daily life—I teach in a public high school—and one of the things I look forward to later in the afternoon, after a long walk, is your column. It is fresh and full of life. Will I go out and furnish my home in the fashion you may post, no, I am after all a teacher. But I did go out and buy the Target boots for both my daughter and myself. Thank you, by the way. It was my daughter that turned me on to your blog and even though she is half way across the country, we call, laughing how you found JCrew Toothpick jeans, when she has been wearing them since they arrived in stores and rarely wears any others.
Keep the blog as alive and lovely as it has been knowing someone out there is sharing the pleasure of it with her daughter, who, like you, is inspired. Thanks.
that was awesome! YOU GO GIRL!
I found your blog when I read the article in Boston Globe Magazine and have read it everyday since then! I look forward to it everyday! The few times I have read comments posted on other web sites I have found them to be negative and mostly ignorant. People love to knock other people down. Stick to listening to your faithful fans on E of S!
Congratulations and forget the haters. It’s all jealousy. One of my coworkers also made the list and I cannot believe people would call her shallow or self obsessed just because she likes to dress. She’s a mega player in associating genes with diseases and her work may save the lives of these jerks some day.
Hang in there! Although the attacks are brutal and hateful, you can spin the negative situation for what it really is…a testament to your success!
“I would rather be attacked than unnoticed. For the worst thing you can do to an author is to be silent as to his works. An assault upon a town is a bad thing; but starving it is still worse.” Samuel johnson.
You are doing what you love, and you have built your happiness from the dreams you had! Let those who want to criticize do so if it makes them feel better, and hope that they can be brave enough to be as self-accomplished as you have been!
Erin,
You have a great decorating style and fashion sense!! I enjoy your blog, your articles and your design perspective. The naysayers are just jealous and small minded!! Keep up all your good work!!
xx-Gina
Erin, so glad that you posted about this. I think what you’ve done as female entrepreneur should be celebrated and you deserve the wonderful positive recognition that’s come along with it. People posting mean, hurtful things about you speaks volumes about who they are: insanely jealous folks who can’t stand to see someone get ahead in such a terrific way. I love your blog, read it daily, and will continue to do so. Know that you have plenty of support out here in the blogosphere.
xx,
KR
My mom always told me that people say such things only because they are insecure or jealous (or both). So please be strong and believe in yourself – you are doing amazing work and I enjoy reading your lovely blog daily.
Good for you, for doing, and for standing up for yourself. You look great, and you should be proud that you are getting free publicity as a business owner. Don’t listen to any negativity. Its jealous rubbish, and like someone else said…they need to learn if you can’t say something nice…
Some people are just so mean! I find every bit of your blog inspiring. I love getting ideas for my home and for my life. I love having someone stylish and classy to look up to! So thank you for what you do and I am glad I get to enjoy of the happiness you bring to the world through your blog. For all those nasty people out there, thank goodness there are still some good people to put them in their place and keep the world beautiful not only through our homes and exteriors but through our good hearts as well.
If you ever read the comments on ANY articles in the Globe, MOST of them are full of hatred. I tell my friends — who care about the issues discussed, or whose books are reviewed in the paper, etc. — not to read the comments. I am familiar with this, as a target of hateful comments on a website reviewing the work I do. It’s really devastating, and I’m glad you wrote about it here. For what it’s worth, I really enjoyed the Globe spread, and I thought you looked beautiful. I love reading about fashion, even though I’m far from fashionable. Everyone is so creative, and it’s a joy to read about and see the photos. Congratulations!
Erin, My mom used to say that, generally, when someone puts you down it’s only to try and elevate themselves. It hurts, I know, to have someone write something like that. But, it has NOTHING to do with you or anyone else presented in the article. It has to do with the insecurities and envy of the people who wrote the comments. Plain and simple.
Erin,
The lesson was to walk away. Rise above it.
Responding validates.
Carry on.
Ummm…honestly I don’t get it. Seriously. It makes me sick that people were so mean and I seriously don’t get why. Because you people love fashion? It’s not like you said the only good fashion items have to cost a million dollars.
You need to invest in one of those “Keep calm and carry on” posters because that is exactly what you need to do. And remember you have a million times more fans than haters :)
Erin, I’m so proud of you for standing up to these people!!! I don’t comment often but I do enjoy your blog so very much. I always get a kick out of Fashion Friday and I’m sure I’m old enough to be your…umm…aunt! :) This post is appalling to me {on your behalf!} I am always taken aback on how people feel that they can go around spewing such nasty thoughts for all to read. These people have serious self esteem issues. You are such a beautiful, fashionable, successful young woman. You should be proud of your accolades….what great accomplishments! Thanks for sharing with all of us!!! Hugs!!!
Good for you for standing on your soapbox. I’ve been shocked at how nasty people are on the public discussion pages for articles like yours. It is a shame that people are so hateful and vindictive. I think you should be proud of what you have accomplished – I love reading your blog and about what you have done. Keep up the great work!!
Hey Erin,
There are haters out there, but there are also those of us who do not always have the time or chance to comment, but regularly read your blog. In fact I subscribe to it right to my email inbox and everytime I see that you have posted a new entry I do a little “yay!” to myself and proceed to read it right away. I subscribe to many blogs and most entries remain unread for many days or even months, but your’s I take the time to look at right away because you work, as well as your writing, and recommendations are inspirational “pick-me-ups” for me daily. I’m sure so many others feel the same. Forget the haters. Do what you do best. Ok I won’t digress just letting you know the lovers are out there as well. Hugs.
I was an Apparel Design major in college and used to spend some of my spare time volunteering with the youth organization in my church. You wouldn’t believe the snide remarks I’d get for studying fashion and not wanting to be a teacher, doctor, or other give-to-others occupation. But I always found it so interesting because regardless of whether or not you tout yourself as fashionable, you still wake up in the morning and put on clothing. Whether it’s a concert tee and ripped jeans or head to toe Prada, you put SOME thought into dressing and buying your clothes. So no one has room to be nasty when it comes to those dressing themselves in a certain way. Kudos to you for this awesome honor and I don’t think they could have picked a lovelier person. Inside AND out.
I’m a Bostonian living in Europe and me & my friends here, just LOVE your blog. Personally for me, it’s exciting to see a young Bostonian making such a splash in my beloved city. You are very talented!
Yesterday I was so happy to see you listed in the Globe’s 25 Most Stylish – your photos look beautiful -I felt like “oh there’s someone I know on the list!”.
Congrats on all your success and please don’t let these jealous, negative people bring you down. I normally don’t post comments on any forums/blogs but I feel so outraged at these envious, miserable people. Don’t give them a second thought – they are not worth one iota of your attention!!
Thanks for creating this great blog – I look forward to it every day!
i was so annoyed by what happened, that I wrote my own post about it… http://stylistdiva.blogspot.com/2009/11/this-is-my-cyber-soap-box-moment.html. Hugs to you Erin! xoxo
first, i like your blog very much. it’s fresh, inspiring and aesthetically pleasing. seriously.
but, reading your self-aggrandizing piece on your boston globe spread and then the latest on “the haters” has left me thinking that, while you have a great sense of style, you must keep your personal life out of this blog. just scrolling through the posts that you do allow, your devoted fans stroking your ego without a single negative comment, it just rubs me the wrong way and it’s not realistic.
it’s fun to read what you think about clothes and chairs and jewelry and shoes. this blog should not be a place for you to work on your issues or grow your ego. leave that for the psychiatrist’s office, or the privacy of your own home.
i’m swearing e o s off. i can’t. i’ll check back in a few weeks when all of this has died down to see what you think of the latest trend i’ve been seeing on the streets of boston–tiny colorful ankle socks with cute shoes and a pencil skirt. the latest j.crew catalog has it nailed down. good luck.
Keep the faith….that’s one thing NO ONE can take from you.
“the beginning of strife is like letting out water, so abandon the quarrel before it breaks out” Proverbs17:14
LOVE your blog! I visit daily because you are an inspiration, your posts are interesting, informative and beautiful! You are talented and beautiful and there ain’t no one that can take any of that away from you! Keep on Keepin’ on Erin!!!!
Wow, I can’t believe you get such awful comments! I think blogs make it easy for people to say rude, anonymous things that they would never say in person. Please don’t be discouraged from jealous, bitter people like that. I love your blog and the Globe article was awesome! You are doing a great job!
I for one applaud you for finding what you love about life and actually doing a job you enjoy. Many of those haters probably hate their jobs and are too scared to take a risk and do something they love. I LOVE your blog- it inspires me to want to make a statement not only with my home but my life. Congrats on your feature in the Globe!
THANKS!!!
You have 148 comments, that should tell you something. When you put yourself out there and (worse) accomplish something, there will be people who will resent either your success or the fact that they do not have the guts to do it.
I’m a stylist in CT and for every clients who loves-loves-loves me, there are several who dislike me or ridicule what I do. More often than not, its sheer jealousy. So it take it as such.
xx
HD
Haters I just don’t get. I really, really don’t. But I do get your incredible talent and I get that you and your hard work are incredibly appreciated by me. Please keep up the stellar work and posts.